Dom, Eddie made a very good point. A woman can go ahead with sex (intercourse) whether or not she feels horny. A guy can do oral on her, but obviously, cannot fcuk if he is not feeling horny. And don't forget that mr karen has experienced a few episodes of ED. I agree with fearless that you are not getting the Total Picture. You have good ideas... can you bring your Idea Machine to bear, keeping in mind karen's COMPLETE story?