Hello to everyone...First time that I have been here and could use some advice and support. A little background info: I am a 45 y.o. male, W, 43, been married nearly 3 years(our anniversary is 10/31- Yup! Halloween!) and we have been separated on and off for 6 months with the most recent being about a month ago. No papers have been filed although D has been mentioned by her a couple of times in the heat of verbal battles. We have no kids together, and she has a D, 24. This is the second marriage for both of us. My first lasted 8 years, no kids, hers, 1 year. I know: Not a good sign. W and I met at a reunion and fell in love FAST and we were married in a year. The last 10 months have been REALLY up and down and alot of the trouble centers around time together: I think she does not make enough time for me and she says I am too controlling and insecure. I do admit that I have those issues, yet not as bad as she accuses me of. I will post more info later, but for now, I could use some quick advice: Her birthday is this Saturday> Not sure whether to get her a card or not or just stay below the radar. I have read the DB book and I have not pursued her or done any begging or stuff like that. Too much pride. Feel free to ask me anything and would appreciate ALL input! Thank you for taking the time to read this.
