The role of the OP in MLC

[a new 2moro]

this is an interesting subject...bottom line I think the OP is a bandaid of sorts...and a drug of choice...sought out to make the MLC feel good...sometimes the bandaid sticks...sometimes it falls off...

Lin

i think this says alot

I think they all have to have some damage to carry on guilt free with a married spouse....esp after it goes on more than a year and said spouse is not D'd or in many cases doesnt even have a D on the plate.

My H too had a OW 1/2 his age. But I choose to believe she was not a nice person. I believe to this day she was looking for a mealticket. No morals no qualms about going after a married man while married herself...using the abuse story.

She set my H up to deck her H and move her out. Then told her H Im leaving you for XX, he can give me more! had her D in 2 months. She lived in town with My H and showed no guilt about it. After playing the victim and saying all the right things to swoop a dead man walking off his feet. Yes my H is responsible for this, but thats what I feel he was at that time. Ripe for the picking. She was nothing less than a predator.

then she she became controlling, possessive, demanding...and nasty. when they had lived together, her true colors showed. it became smothering to H, he couldnt do anything w/o the 10th degree. she called to check up on him. if he wasnt home at a certain time she ripped into him. If he didnt meet her at the door, she ripped into him. my friend was privy to one of those explosions when talking to H on the phone. She said it was the vilest thing shed ever heard.

I learned this from warren and my friend. She hated Warren as H began to spend time with him. She went ballistic over any contact with me. she must have sensed she was in a loosing battle towards spring as she became very insecure. The calmer I became the more he gravitated to me.....the worse she got.

up in the resources their is a thread about OW that hits it on the nail pretty good.