Him deciding to take care of his wife, has nothing to do with whether or not he personally feels horney or not.
Not so fast. You can't really have sex if you don't personally feel horny. You can go through the motions, but it's pretty easy for the other person to notice that. But you can't really participate in a way that would actually satisfy the other person's needs if you don't personally feel horny. So you can love your wife all you want and you can decide to take care of her all you want, but you can't actually take care of her unless you are horny.
a fine and enviable madness, this delusion that all questions have answers, and nothing is beyond the reach of a strong left arm.
