Mandyloo - I don't think that they are necessarily just bandaids. In fact I think I said ust that. other people think they are, but I think there is more to it than that. this is partly what this thread is about.
And some of the relationships last, possibly because they provide a better fit with what our WAS need, not only in the short but inthe longer term. It hurts, but there it is.
I don't know whether your XH behaviour represents a real change or whether he had a pattern of behaving like this when stressed. Clearly he currently isn't a very nice person, and I am sorry for that.
I didn't realise that husbands could evict their former families or fail to make proper provision for them either in the US or UK, but I am probably very naive.
I am sorry I can't be more comforting . . . none of us know how it will ultimately work out, but I would imagine that you wouldn't want this person back after all he has done?
