Yes this does make sense, I do do that but, with H wanting to do things together I let it go more by the wayside. It's time to start doing things for me again. Maybe in the process H will see what he might end up missing.
H wanted to go to the movie on Friday. He called me i was in the City with SIL(GALING) and asked when i would be home as he wanted to go. Then wanted to go on an outing up north to alexandria bay on Saturday. Took me to lunch and then took a boat shuttle over to an island to see boldt castle, A romantic place to see. Yesterday i did the GAL and went to an apple fest with my oldest daughter. Was gone until mid afternoon. When I got home H acted quiet(ok) then while watching tv at night he was clingy. When we went to bed he just got in rolled over on his side facing the other way and didn't even bother to give me a kiss. Told him good night twice and he just said goodnite. HE is so all over the place that it is hard to act as if. Menopause might be helping me walk on eggshells too, as i get emotional easily.
I want to be patient but it is running out. I have waited pateintly for months before i even mentioned R talk so i think I have done good Not pressuring him at all, Iv'e just let sh%% happen.
it's just getting old.
JAK
You don't get to choose how you're going to die. Or when, you can only decide how you're going to live now. ~Joan Baez