muddled and angry: Puddle's third thread

[Heimlich]

{{{{{{{Puddle}}}}}}

That had to be tough, but you handled it well -- though the Homer book falling out of your bag with a plop, face up in front of your H sounds like a definate Lifetime movie moment.

No words of wisdom, but a couple of things strike me:
1. You sound dispassionate (or or your way there) about H at the moment. Very close to detachment, even lovingly. From what I remember of your postings from 2 months ago, HUGE change.
2. He's making it very easy for you to detach.
3. Your H's connection sounds like my W's spark. God, I hate both words in the context of a R at the moment (while acknowledging that you need a bit of one/both of them at some point).
4. Did he agree that you two have a bond?
5. What is this man looking for? People change throughout life, but he sounds lost.
6. All of his "I don't want to be married to you". Feh, we've all heard it before. Hurts to hear, but we know it already don't we? Comes to mind that LBSs aren't the only ones who repeat themselves.
7. From experience, your H is deluding himself about the impact on your kids. Haven't had the energy to post anything on my own thread (not much going on anyway), but my youngest hides from me when I go to pick the girls up. We did the "our" place apartment and all. Wait until he gets that sort of reaction and he'll begin to realize what he's really doing. I'll warn you, watching your kids in pain will/can kill your detachment.
8. Great job on not pushing your points, staying calm, having a good time despite the lurker H, and, while being a chick, having the spacial ability to pack a car!
9. None of this is about you. This entire situation is about him. But good for you on making yourself a better person.
10. No need to be happy all of the time. Have only met a real-life Pollyanna once and wanted to strangle her on occassion.

BD