Out of the Abyss...

[ediemarie]

Well - H has decided NOT to go to work today. I'm thankful he won't be going in, but worried that this is just the beginning of a long string of avoidant behavior. He did this last year, too. He used so many sick days last year that they docked his pay. He says he doesn't want to go through this again. I agree. I can't go through it either.

Here is my plan:
- Make it as comfortable, pleasant, as positive as possible at home.
- Let him know that I love him and am here for him.
- Stay positive about his job and not mention him quitting

"He can't show up for work without her pressuring him for sex and love. And he is given no alternative but to quit. There should be some accomodation made to get him out of the situation without having to sacrifice his career."

Sara - I agree, but what now? Do you think I should suggest that he frame his conversation with Mr. P around this? It is deeply troubling to me that she is still actively pursuing him, even after he told her he didn't want a R with her. Why can't she just back off? Do you really see this as her and not him? I think this is him, too. When she gives him a card or wants to speak with him, he really should just walk away or return the card unopened. He doesn't HAVE to respond to her advances - or am I wrong in thinking that he HAS the power to do so?

I am so tempted to call Mr. P myself. I won't, but I'm tempted.