I think when things go bad with OP, reality kicks in and they realize how foolish they have been. Maybe it's part of the process of actually reentering the real world? We both know that when they're in the fog of OP, they probably couldn't care less if we live or die. But, when the fog lifts and they see the chaos and destruction that lays in their wake, maybe even for just a moment, they ask themselves "What have I done?". IMHO, that's part of the problem - When you come out of the fog, no one wants to be put on trial for what they've done. Sure, it has to happen one day, but as much as pressure and nagging doesn't bring them back, the fear of having to face what they've created can't be much better. I've learned never to ask my wife how, whys and wherefores of whatever has happened.
