Ouch! The truth...Now what?

[mkultra]

I often wonder if I told the OW my side of the story if it would make a difference? I never approached the sitch, I just wanted OW to know that I existed in case she was some stupid Amber Frey who was lied to. She knew. Oh well. Now I know he lied to me so maybe he lied to her as well. Whay am I saying, of course he lied to her!!!

I remember Neph talking about how naive the OP can be. Mine is very young and naive, weak, so maybe that is the appeal. A self esteem boost for my H. Like ImLin mentioned, "submissive". I am so sorry that you are going through this.

Typically, you are right that pushing, means puching them deper into a coccoon. Healthy, adjusted people are not likely to have affairs. There are different types of affairs but there are also certain patterns. Try to avoid the pitfalls of making the affair any longer.