One guy who I rejected because he was too culturally conservative for me sent me a an e-mail that implied "maybe you won't date me but you can't stop me from jacking off to your picture."
LOL, nice guy huh? Must have been one hell of a picture Ummmm by the way, here is my e-mail adress..........
Mojo, why not continue your experiment by changing your picture?
The speed dating test is interesting. It indicates whom you would pick to DATE. I'd be interested in an experiment that indicates the kind of partner each gender would CONTINUE TO DATE for, say a few months, AND the kind each would choose for a long term partner.
My hypotheses is that a great-looking woman/man will be chosen to date, possibly even a few times, but if they turn out to have a rotten personality, are mean, stupid, rude, etc., the chooser will not stick with them (unless they marry them, of course! LOL).
Mojo men picked the women they would choose to date almost solely on the factor of physical appearance.
What? Not a Minnesota Multiphasic Personality Inventory, a credit history, a criminal background report, a complete medical/psychological/work history, interviewing at least 5 long-term friends, and a relationship goals questionnaire?
Mojo, why not continue your experiment by changing your picture?
Actually, I was going to get some new pictures up before I started dating GP because I would say that by standard standards I am better looking now than in my older pictures since I have consistently been investing time/money in weight training, hair salons and an aesthetic dermatology center that takes monthly payments - lol. I figure if I want to have sex with men I have to be objective about objectification (sigh).
Anyway, my profile is still live on one site but it indicates that I am "seeing someone" and I took off my picture. The "seeing someone" message resulted in no reduction in interested inquiries. Taking my picture down did reduce the inquiries but I am still getting some e-mails. I would say these are half from the truly desperate and half from men who feel themselves to be a good match for me otherwise. For instance, one was from an artist who lived in Paris for many years until just recently and feels himself to be exiled in rural Michigan.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
What? Not a Minnesota Multiphasic Personality Inventory, a credit history, a criminal background report, a complete medical/psychological/work history, interviewing at least 5 long-term friends, and a relationship goals questionnaire?
Okay, Lou, let's say you're dating two women. One is "acceptable" in terms of physical appearance and the other is "smoking hot". How many points differential on the credit report are you willing to overlook? I believe that you believe that you would rather hook up with a woman who invests $300 a month in long term annuities but...it might really be the case that you would choose to hook up with the woman who invests $300 a month at the salon. I wonder.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
MoJo Lou, let's say you're dating two women. One is "acceptable" in terms of physical appearance and the other is "smoking hot". Mojo. Smoking hot looking????? I have to think on that a little.
"Little"
"Acceptable" and treats me well and I float her boat, yes, I would go for that.
Smoking hot looks wise is good but how we got along is so much more important to me.
????? $3,600 spent at a salon in a year????? Seems somewhat frivolous to me.
Can I give half that to someone working to better their life. Some single mom going to college/trade school so she can take care of her kids better???
MoJo, the R is so much more important than the smoking hot looks.
(Hypothetically IF) I was in bed/sitting on the couch/etc. With either choice, actions and tactile sensations would over ride looks.
How many points differential on the credit report are you willing to overlook? Not too many.
BB did the buy what she wanted thing for many years. I don't want to revisit that situation again.
I know some people that buy and go bankrupt. I don't like them much because they use other people's money recklessly. They play and don't pay.
Did I tell you I repossessed cars for a short time? No single moms, but lots of players had to find alternative transportation. One player had a helicopter and didn’t pay his lease payments for a long time.
Going bankrupt for medical reasons, I don't have a problem with that.
On the point differences, looks wise, I don't know the spread I would assign. Sure, a few points for really good looks, but not many.
If you go to Wal-Mart and screen out all of the average looking people (over 50) lots of people get cut from an acceptable list. Why aren’t those people entitled to just as much love, companionship, etc as a hottie/stud?
I believe that you believe that you would rather hook up with a woman who invests $300 a month in long term annuities Annuities, too tame.
If you go to Wal-Mart and screen out all of the average looking people (over 50) lots of people get cut from an acceptable list. Why aren’t those people entitled to just as much love, companionship, etc as a hottie/stud?
Well, as we well know nobody is "entitled" to any of that stuff. Actually, that was a good example that you gave because I've noted that there is a serious shortage of attractive people shopping at my local rural Wal-Mart. Also, there appear to be many people who have worn their pajamas to the store. However, most of them appear to be married to somebody walking next to them pushing a cart with whom they may or may not share love, companionship, affection, sex etc.
Anyway, the thing you would discover if you were to become single is that you are back in the world of free market sexual economics where you pretty much get what you are able/willing to "pay" for and your perspective might change. In the closed market of my marriage I got very little "bang" for my sexual "buck" investment. On the open market investing 1/2 hour in serious weight training a day gets me a sexy man saying "You had better go right now." when he puts his hands on my waist and then phone calls suggesting what I might wear when I come back and then a steamy hot make out session pressed against various kitchen appliances intermixed with further exceedingly validating phraseology and clothing removal down hallways culminating in a terrifyingly erotic bump and grind like I knew a man who played with Parliament could zoo fantasy encounter on a giant size retro 70s waterbed.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
Also, there appear to be many people who have worn their pajamas to the store Really????? A few tradesmen in work clothing here, but most dress OK.
On the open market investing 1/2 hour in serious weight training a day gets me a sexy man saying "You had better go right now." when he puts his hands on my waist and then phone calls suggesting what I might wear when I come back and then a steamy hot make out session pressed against various kitchen appliances intermixed with further exceedingly validating phraseology and clothing removal down hallways culminating in a terrifyingly erotic bump and grind like I knew a man who played with Parliament could zoo fantasy encounter on a giant size retro 70s waterbed.
WOW, I neede to take a cold shower after that paragraph, Smoking hot MoJo, and I hear you.
Ummmm by the way, here is my e-mail adress.......... 
