No ammount of support was enough for H in the run up to the bomb, he needed constant praise, I guess he felt unloved, I guess he felt I just didn't care enough, even on my birthday he needed all the attention, I just couldn't keep up.
I feel the OP, although they probably don't offer more affection or attention than the LBS, it is a different type of attention, it is totally given attention, the OP is out to please and impress 100%.
What my H needed was a stepford wife, I didn't fit in, but I know someone who did and probably still does. the problem with me is that I have a life and a mind of my own.
As I see it the OP slots in as a piece of the jigsaw, but not into the piece of LBS, that piece is still a part of the jigsaw, the OP is slotted into the place where the piece representing the WAS used to sit, this piece fell out of the picture and got misplaced some time ago. It is not until the WAS begins to wake up that they realise the OP was not the correct piece, it didn't fit right. They discover that all along it was the one representing themselves that completed the picture so they start to look for this misplaced piece. When they eventually find the piece, the WAS can look at the picture in right light, and guess what the LBS was always in the picture, they just didn't notice during the FOG.
