I would agree with lwb that he is doing a lot of spewing and probably doesn't mean half of it.
Now on the part about finances, I am all against divorce but if he is playing with retirement money, it may be time for you to find a lawyer, at least to protect your assests. Having a lawyer does not mean that a divorce will happen, but it stop the money from disappearing.
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