Out of the Abyss...

[ediemarie]

Saffie - thanks for sharing your stich with me.

No-one even hinted to me it was going on when I had to attend ceratin compnay functions.

I am always amazed when this happens. Always. Janet Jackson was on Oprah the other day and she said that she lost a friendship with a woman because she knew the woman's husband was cheating on her and refused to tell the woman. She felt it was none of her business and that the H should have told the woman and not Janet.

H's colleagues do know about his A and some of them even confronted him on it - and he still persists. He really just does not care what other's think.

There was great and obvious relief when it ended. Even so, I cannot see the staff at his Co. without feeling strong dislike for them.

I totally understand this. I have a difficult time with H's principal as he has known all along and hasn't helped, only contributed to the problem. I kind of understand that he doesn't want to get involved, but I don't understand why you would perpetuate a situation in which your employees are 1) not focused on their work and 2) one of your employees is having a difficult time at home. How is that employee supposed to keep his mind on work and be effective in the classroom??!

Sara -

I can't believe that the Principal knew about the affair and did not find a way to get those people into separate classrooms. That is not a good situation for the children in the classroom. Even if the affair were going great, teaching is not the #1 focus for those two teachers. This is a very weird situation.

Oh, how the situation gets even weirder. This same Principal's wife left him for another man when she became impregnated with OM's baby. He has experienced this situation first hand and has done nothing to help. Nothing. I don't get it. I've stopped trying to understand it.

Amy - so good to see you stopping by. I posted a really long reply to you on your thread.

Everytime I think I can get past the lies another pops up. I would love to know how you handle this.

I don't know that I do a very good job at this either. I guess I'm at the point where I don't believe H very much. I always assume he is keeping something from me. This changed a bit right after Retro, but considering the latest developments, I'm back to not believing anything he says. It's very difficult. I just accept that he struggles with being open and honest with me. I think it's a process. He needs to feel more comfortable sharing, and I need to be more open to listening. There isn't any quick fix - it's a process of developing healthy communication patterns.

LWB - oh he is lost, isn't he? I have some updates here. Stay tuned. Thanks for swinging by!

Cat - thank you. He is a wreck. No better way to say it. wreck. broken. ill? Thank you for reminding me that he has chosen me. He says that all the time to me. That he chooses me - it certainly doesn't feel that way, especially when he chooses to leave me to go with her. I don't know if I am doing something to cause that or if it's something in him...

thank you all for checking up on me, helping me, posting to me, encouraging me - you are all wonderful!