All hope is lost/help

[RedHeadWife]

Hey, girl, I think you need to just hang in there right now. I understand that you aren't getting what you want/need from H right now, but, yes, I do think an M can be rebuilt by "living as friends" for awhile. H needs to see what he is going to lose and see you standing by him no matter what.

Honestly, and obviously this is just my opinion, like I said, I think you need to just hang in there for awhile longer and not have any sort of R talk/letter/email, etc.

I've been rethinking my sitch as well. I get Gary Chapman's emails every day and each week they talk about a different topic. Well, this last week was emotional love or something along those lines and it reminded me that what we are really supposed to do is just love & support our spouses w/o the expectations and that in the long run, best case scenerio, they will follow the lead. Our role is not to expect what we are going to get from our spouse and/or our marriage, but to be the best wife or husband we can be to our spouse and do everything we can to make the M good for them. In doing that, we will hopefully get back what we put in.