I am pleased that this hasn't turned into a bash the OP thread. i think it shows a lot of self restraint on our parts!! Me too, Angelica.
I think we are mature enough to understand that these are the actions of 'some messed up people.' I worry that the op with my 'ex' will get completely destroyed from his antics. He almost destroyed who I was and I was very strong and independent. He told me after he left that I was the strongest person he had ever met.
His first wife was addicted to alcohol and narcotics.
I believe he ripped her to shreds after 17 years of marriage. People told me she was a beautiful girl at one time. It sounds far-fetched, but I know how he left me feeling. Like I was nothing and never meant anything to him.
