Nuttychick - my h takes this one stage further - my distress [according to him] has made things more 'difficult' for the children to accept what has happened. Inshort, their anger at him is my fault!!
However, as one of my sons said 'Mum if you hadn't been upset we would have thought you were as mad as dad' Which was reassuring.
Denial has the effect of making US feel crazy.
I think the inability to feel 'love' as we understand it is part of what makes sex so important to so many MLCers. They truly do confuse it with love.
