Love is a word in the MLC'ers fantasy world...it isn't love that they have for the OP...not real love...it is a feel good feeling they have...they are confused....like a teenager with a crush... My H abandoned us all...he said he loved his children but that they didn't need him!?!?!...Okay, we had two adult D's...still living at home...still dependant on us...and our son, he was 9!...so who would say that a 9 year old boy doesn't need his father???....someone who is very confused...
My H summed it up this way when he returned and couldn't say he loved me...he quoted a scripture that basically says that a husband will love his wife as himself...then he said "How can I love you if I don't love myself?"...there in lies the crux of this whole thing...they are struggling with their own inner feelings of themselves...instead of focusing on that they run for something that makes them not have to feel what is inside...it all becomes external...
