I do have a question. Why is it they seem to think they really do love OP and tell the OP that they do love them?
If they are not capable of loving their own children as they should(for example) How can they love the OP?
Hi Kiki,
I think this is an excellent question...and I hope my thoughts about this makes sense. I think we project our feelings of love by thinking that our ex's love the same way we do. My ex told me he loved me. But his ideas of love and feelings involved in it were much different than mine.
I wonder if they truly know what love is. That's why this kind of thing hurts us so badly. And leaves us so confused. And also explains some of the no contact with children or real understanding of why everyone is so hurt. We think that they love the op with the same feelings that we would love someone. When in a lot of cases, it's may be just a r borne of dysfunction.
