TOH...it sounds like your H is doing what mine did...the drinking...the rages...it eventually brings them down...I can tell you that at times...when H wasn't drunk and mean...just drunk and emotional I could get him to talk...actually when it all came to a head for him was when I was concerned for his health and called the ambulance to pick him up....he spilled his guts to the ER nurses and doctors...that is where his help began...like your H...mine was extremely proud on the outside but so very broken on the inside...
I really do know how you feel...like I said before I have felt a lot of similarities in our situations...the good thing is H probably chose you because he could trust you when he couldn't trust himself...he knew you were strong....when he couldn't be...my H admitted he didn't marry me for love...he married me for my family stability...something to think about!
