The role of the OP in MLC

[theotherhalf]

My H's OW...

I really fear that there is a "real" relationship with H and OW.

They were together for 2 night stand 15 years ago, when H's father passed away. Then it was over.

They have worked together everyday since that time. Sometimes pretty closely as H was production manager and OW is quality control.

We only talked of her on rare occasions. Once in awhile I would ask how they are to each other and he would say they are friends that's all.

Last summer we discussed the issue a little. H swore to me that it would never happen again. That I had nothing to worry about. I asked him to promise me that if he ever thought of straying again that he would at least respect me enough to tell me ahead of the act. To at least save me face this time. He promised and said don't have to worry about it.

Not sure when, how, or why they got together this time. I did not find out till it was already going on. H still denies any of it. Says they are just friends. That she has done nothing wrong. That it is all him.

Well they are more than friends. Heard this in conversations on phone. You don't tell OP that you miss them, that you love them, that you will lick their a** if they are just friends. Drunk or not it is more than friends.

My H hates to talk on phone. He is now calling her 2-4 times every day. They are now on differents shifts at work so they call each other at work. Something that H does not believe in. They talk for sometimes 45 minutes. My H does not talk face to face, let alone on the phone.

Any future plans that H may spill out are things that I can direct back to her. Like if his work closes he may move North. She visits Minnesota. Someone told me they heard he's thinking of moving to Des Moines, her mother lives in Akeny and she goes there alot of weekends.

So my sitch may just be one that the band-aid will stay. I'll never understand the attraction as she is about everything H is against in women. H never has let anyone control him in anyway and now it seems this woman is doing just that. And he is completely willing, and with that he is throwing away ALL that is important to him and that he is about.

I will never understand....