Ouch! The truth...Now what?

[theotherhalf]

i still believe that i need to leave the door open to my husband. So that he feels, and knows that it is okay for him to come home. BUT! How do I do that but yet protect my heart?

I am really torn as to what to do now. I don't know if I can stop being there for him. I don't know that if he calls me Friday to come in that I won't. Although from what everyone says I need to be not so unavailable.

About whether or not to tell him? It has been almost a month since H and I have dicussed D. I have not brought it up since and neither has H. I haven't simply because I don't want to hear his answers and I don't believe anythng he says at this point. So by bring this new found info up, here are my fears:

1) Bringing up OW at all may just push him harder to her

2) Telling him my boundaries could lead to discussion of D again. May bring it to mind enough for him to go file

3) Could lead to argument that I don't know if I can refrain from

4) I cannot reveal my source of info so am in fear of questions

I really don't know how to handle this new found info.
On one hand, finding the info doesn't change the fact that it has looked like in the last couple of weeks that H may be coming out of the fog and turning back our way. I don't really know what has transpired between them since the 27th. So maybe I should just wait for awhile again and continue to be as I am.