Rollar Coasters are no longer fun

[Amy]

I am just so lost. Can any of you give me some good advice here?

My son talked to my husband today on speaker phone of course because I monitor what he tells them. He sounded so sad and so broken. My 9 yr old gave him hell. I felt bad but I was told by the therapist to let him express himself so I did. He told my husband he was making bad choices. My husband told him that he wasn't sure he could get past the nagging I did and my son said you have a girlfriend and mom is willing to forgive you. Everything my H said my S came back with something. It was hard to listen to really.

He finally just said Dad I don't want to talk to you if you are going to be this way and he hung up.

I didn't call back but wanted to. I don't know what to do. I feel so bad for my husband but I feel also like he made his bed and he will have to take what the kids toss at him.

Why do I feel this need to protect him and take care of him? He has committed adultry multiple times. Walked out on me and verbally abused me and yet I still want to take care of him.

My question is what advice do you give me as of now. Do I just continue to not talk to him? Should I send him a get well card? I don't know how to deal with this.