I think I was talking about the control issues forrest but I might have missed something in lily's post, (not sure) but there a whole lot of different dynamics to control and how they can affect your situation.
If you wanted to know my take I would be more than happy to give it to you but it might be something lily was talking about that you are referring to in which case i will follow along and give input when I think it might be useful....
hope you are feeling strong. And remember when you do fall down, pick yourself up,. lick a wound, brush yourself off and carry on........ when you do this people notice!!!
M: 34 H: 32 M: almost 6 years S: 2 yrs D: 4 yrs Together: 8 Known him: 15 years I walked away: April 1st Wanted back: May 1st!!!!!