The role of the OP in MLC

[still hoping]

A: Another great thread topic with interesting discussion.

If he got all As, and one A minus, they would want to knw why he had got an A minus!!

So very typical where I come from!
My H definitely needs praise as well. FIL has never given any - and I mean NEVER. As children, H and siblings would get gifts, etc, but never any words of praise, even till today. FIL is major cause of H's MLC - how he raised them, how he was absent for much of their lives, FIL's relationship with MIL... the list goes on.

I know that I should support H more, but I feel so insincere when I do. H really messed things up this time and I can't bring myself to tell him he's doing a good job when I know the truth behind it all. Honestly, I feel that anything ogre has touched is tainted, and so far, it's proving to be true (i.e. H's restaurant). And I know for a fact that ogre is falling for all of H's disillussioned fantasies, being oh-so-supportive and fueling his ego. In my case, they both need a wake up call.