It sounds like the affair is running it's course. Let them be angry at each other -- anger destroys love. She if discovering that life with him won't be so wonderful. I think she is considering breaking it off, but she's not there Yet. If you're there for her, and supportive, she'll remember that. Support her emotionally when OM is not.
Hang in there, I think things may be going your way. Unfortunately, it takes so long to get there, and the road is long and rocky.
