Never Ever Ever could I image this man being a cake eater. Really did not believe that he had it in him to be the kind of guy that does this. This man could not put that kind of hurt on me and his kids and be able to live withhimself. Never Ever, would my H ever let a woman control his very life.
Oh my gosh, I totally know what you mean. I have denied this past summer soooo many things H has done, thinking "No way, no way could he be doing this? He has too many morals to be cake eating". I have had the same shock as you, many times over. The day after H confessed things to me, he took our kids and met OW and her kids to go swimming. That night, I put a strict boundary and said "See her if you are going to, I can't stop that, but I will get legal on your ass if you take our kids around her ever again". They talked on the phone for over a month longer, and pathetically tried to hide it. Oh and don't worry, I have never felt so used. Last week, H and I were intimate, and not two minutes after we were, he called OW. She doesn't answer his calls anymore, which actually makes it more pathetic. But still, I was in shock.
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The only thing I know for sure is that there will be no more "visits" to his house. No more going anywhere when he invites me. Not until if or when this thing with her is over. I will not let him do this to me and my girls any longer.
You are planning on going a bit dark, which is great. But I think the DB key is to remain polite, but detached. I really don't know the answer whether you should tell him or not, I am thinking not, just answer with vague "I've been busy" answers, I suppose. I could have written your post, I am just so sorry!!
