Thanks heaps. It's good to read your post and understand that my way of thinking is not unusual (in regards to winning her back then telling her it's too late).
I have always been fiercy loyal and too honest for my own good, with family and work. I think the loyalty to my family overrides my thought process, and I tend to overlook many things that normally I would have walked away from and never accepted.
I have gone dark, and I have found it easier than detaching and still trying to be friendly to her. I find the less contact I have with her the better I feel. I know this is wrong, but I am having trouble (the honesty bit) pretending to be fine with everything, so I just avoid spending too much time around her other than if it relates to DD or finances. No idle chit chat about work or anything.
I suppose it is still early days (MLC), and no conflict is a good sign. We have not argued in ages. But still find it difficult being in the same room.
I hope you feel better real soon and thanks for your insight, it really does help. I think I might go to bed to as I have had a huge day with work, then visiting relatives. DD is sleeping in my room again, so I am going to enjoy snuggling up to her (eventhough she tends to "thrash" her "jimmy" arms and legs all night. I am going to have to talk to W and we will have to try to "wean" her out of sleeping with us, and get her back into her own room again.
