When I got back with my H there was a striong feeling, to say "Now that I have got you back I am going to do the same to you - see how you like it". I still get that feeling sometimes but the times I get it are fewer and further between. We have both opened up emotionally and showed each other our vulnerable sides.
As you saw from me the other day - I am not always easy to live with. I am not the sort to run to another person, but my head can be my own worst enemy. I have so much to be lucky for but sometimes I just cannot see that.
It does take 'two to tango'.
For a while I did want to just win him back and ruin his R with OW and then just tun round and tell him to FCUK off but my love for him overtook those feelings and his remorse was real and genuine. I had a part to play in the marriage breakdown so I also had a part to play in bringing it back together. It is never the same again but it can be better. I didn't use to beleive that but now I am 60% there in believing that and that %age will increase with time. Hang in there Andy, you are a great guy with loads to offer. This other guy sounds like a bum. You have a long list of ladies on the DBusting site queuing up for you!!!!!!!!! That should do your PMA some good. And there's nothing like a goog looking guy who loves his daughter!!!!!!
I am going back to bed now as I feel so rough but I will be thinking about you. I so want your wife to wake up and see what she is missing out on. Don't detatch too much. Sometimes I think there is a danger that our S's think we no longer give a damn when we do. It's a fine line to walk but man she would be so stupid to lose you.
(((((HUGS)))))))) to you and tour fantastic D. Saffie by the way, go and look on my myspace. There is a girl, (one of my friends whio I have met through the boards), on there who is fantastic - Dianne. I could just imagine you with her. She is a vet. Clever and beautiful. I correspond with her by email frequently. She is great. Request her as a friend and get to know her. It will certainly get your W's curiosity going anyway and she is one bute gal - truly. Very spunky and with a good sense of humour.
Saffie me 46 H 46 M in 1986 D20,D18,S16,D13 H's A 01/05 to 07/06 H recommitted to M 07/06 renewed vows 09/06 Going from strength to strength