So H says:

-He has been to see a lawyer. Says L will give him CS obligation numbers. That should be a wakeup call.

-Says he is a lot happier. (I said that in some ways I was glad this happened because it enabled me to think about what I want.)

-Said it would require a level of forgiveness that "we" cannot do.

-Said he tried to tell me that he had reservations about having D1.5.

-Said I never really knew him.

-Said he does not understand why I still want to be with him.

Threatened to go for custody of D1.5 (in a mean moment).

-Counseling is not working.

-We should share a lawyer (no way baby--but I didn't say that).

I said:

-It's mediation.

-In a weird way I was glad that this happened because it enabled me to think about what I wanted.

-I wasn't happy either.

-D was his idea, not mine. Therefore what happens is mostly up to him.

-You used to be a person willing to reflect on your actions, who would understand and expect change.

-I know you better than anyone. I think you changed and deep down you don't like who you became.

He left angry. I still didn't handle this well, sigh.


I don't know why am I doing this. =(

M: 16 years
Bomb 4/07
OW 20s long gone
Divorced 11/09
I remarried New Guy
Cooperative r w/X regarding D