Wow I like how you put that. I think I need to do the same. Let my husband go but not lock him out. I have such fear if I dont call or I dont pursue he will not come back but the bottom line is pursuing him is not working so maybe I will try your advice.

M 32 H 39
SS 15, SD 12, S11, S9, D7, D6, D4
E/A 02/06 WAS 03/06 RH 05/06
On 07/07 told me he wants to leave again.
On 08/11/07 Walked out again.

People say "When God closes a door he opens a window." They forget to tell you "It is hell in the hallway!"