Your H is going to continue being an idiot for now. It's up to you whether you let his behavior ruin your day. I'm not saying you have to kick him out of your life, just don't let his actions affect your sanity. Let him go, but don't lock him out. Does that make sense?
That is some of the best advice I have heard, that now being in hindsight for my situation. Half of what I thought, heard, or construed in my own head caused half my problems. What she told me was lies while separated, what others told me I have since found out was only what they thought, not what the knew, and my own mind was great at making up what she was probably doing and with who. It was not till I stopped worrying and trying to out think what my wife was doing or saying that things calmed down.
Worry about yourself and kids, let what happens happen, when he does "Wake up" you then have to decide your next step, till then you can't worry about him or his actions.
M 41 W 33 S8 S17 Bomb 3/11/07 S 3/28/07 New beginning? 8/31/07
