G - I'm so sorry for the bomb man. I really am. Sucks. But you seem to have the right attitude going. Pick yourself, dust yourself and continue to put one foot in front of the other. In the end that is all you can do.
My take on the "details" of a divorce...once one person blinks...it gets ugly fast. Sounds like you both probably want this to go smoothly...so keep it that way. Remember, you control your attorney..not the other way around. It is your attorney's job to get you the most he or she can. You however need to have this woman in your life for a very long time to come and you need to co-parent with her. That doesn't mean lay down...but that doesn't mean ask for more than you deserve and push buttons. K?
Stay strong - you have done a LOT of work on yourself that is going to pay back HUGE dividends in the future for you.
