Cinders - do read up on narcissitic personality disorder - I think you will see a lot of traits your h exhibits [I am not saying all MLCers have borderline narcissitc personality disorder] NPDers have a need for adulation that goes beyond what is normal. I always remember praising something my h had done - about ten years ago, and i said, 'I am not going over the top on this am I?'
and he replied'You should know by now that I can never have enough praise' He said it lightly, with a laugh, but I thnk there was a lot of truth in it. His parents never gave him much praise. If he got all As, and one A minus, they would want to knw why he had got an A minus!! He won prizes, scholarships, awards but they were dismissive. 'Didn't want him to get a swollen head' was how they put i. Well, our second son is very bright, and I do know how dangerous it can be to make a kid feel valued only for what they can do, or to make them feel 'better' than other people' But you can do it in a way that bolsters their self esteem.
