Picked up DD from my mums, I am at my sisters for dinner tonight, though I would jump on as she is cooking and DD is playing with the dogs.
W has not called me or home to talk to DD in 3 days. Must be having a pretty good time with OM in Melbourne.
DD did have my mother in stitches today. She described OM to her (whilst I was at work) and told her that he was very careful with his money (tight arse). She also said that he had a bit of a belly on him (this is one thing I am amazed with, my W is so attractive, and settles for someone that she wouldn't have given the time of day to when she was single).
I didn't realise how powerful depression and MLC were, where W would even look at him let alone have a PA with him, it really does hurt me soooo much. Also the fact that he preyed on her when she was vulnerable at her kickboxing classes, and consoled her at her most depressed condition.
That is something I will have trouble with if we ever do get a chance to reconcile, knowing that she has been intimate with someone like that..............I know it may sound crude, but the more I think of it, the more unattracted I am to her knowing this.
That is the only thing that really makes me angry. I would have been fine if we separated and she moved on with someone amazing, but to do this with someone like him really does break my heart.
Anyhow, I have the next two days off to spend with DD which I am looking forward to.
Sorry for rambling on in regards to OM, as I thought I had gotten over it. But although I have gotten over separation and imminent divorce, I still cant get over that she is with someone like that.
MY H down graded and OW was a DOG. She carried more weight than me, never exercised, wasn't as intellectually as sharp as me, (though I think she thinks she was). All in all a definate step down. She was younger but not by as much as your W's OM is. The only think she did do was smile more......and I think that she did that to cover up for when she didn't understand what was going on!!!!!
It does make you lose respect for your partner but once the fog lifts they are horrified for what they were settling for.
You my good man have a lot going for you. Ignore your wife. You are going to have the babes swarming over you when you are ready for it and that gorgeous D of yours is going to be an extra attraction. Your W is an idiot!!!!! Saffie By the way, thank goodness the French won as well - we have a much better chance of beating then next than if they had lost!!!!!
Saffie me 46 H 46 M in 1986 D20,D18,S16,D13 H's A 01/05 to 07/06 H recommitted to M 07/06 renewed vows 09/06 Going from strength to strength
I'm Ok thanks. I have the house to myself as the kids are out playing soccer or visiting friends so I have sneaked down to the PC for a while. I think SA will get us in the end!!!!! (they are still in arn't they?)
I feel as though I have lost chunks of time with sleeping so much because of my cold!!!!
Saffie
Saffie me 46 H 46 M in 1986 D20,D18,S16,D13 H's A 01/05 to 07/06 H recommitted to M 07/06 renewed vows 09/06 Going from strength to strength
That made me laugh, cough, splutter and then laugh again.....I won't describe the slimely stringy sneeze in between but I bet you get the picture!!!!!!!!
Saffie
Saffie me 46 H 46 M in 1986 D20,D18,S16,D13 H's A 01/05 to 07/06 H recommitted to M 07/06 renewed vows 09/06 Going from strength to strength
You know my W never did give me her new mobile number before she left on her trip.
Not that I would have called it, but what if DD wanted to get hold of her, or if an emergency came up. What goes through their heads to think this way. I just wonder if she does these things to ge a reaction from me (as I have not given her one for several weeks, used to get one 10 times a day before that, not now)
Does the MLC have that much of a hold on them?
Also, I hope she comes to her senses with OM. I really would like her to find someone great for her and DD's sake. Is that a selfish way to think?
That's not a selfish way to think at all. This OM sounds like a right bum. Would you still have her back if she came to her senses? Some how Andy you seem to deserve so much more......and so does your daughter.
I want to wack her with a 2x4 for you.
You are too nice my friend.
Saffie
Saffie me 46 H 46 M in 1986 D20,D18,S16,D13 H's A 01/05 to 07/06 H recommitted to M 07/06 renewed vows 09/06 Going from strength to strength
I don't know what I want, if that makes sense.....
I can only remember the great 16 years we had, and I know I am partly to blame. I don't know if I can accept what has happened. It's hard knowing that someone else has been intimate with her. Its hard knowing she picked him over me. I want to see DD every morning and every night.
One day, I think I can accept her back whilst other days, I want her to come back so I can tell her "It's too late". I hope I am doing it for the right reasons, and not just trying to get her away from OM. It's just soooo confusing.
I suppose I will never know until I get the opportunity of reconciling, then it will be clearer for me.
It's also funny that my sitch has lasted 10 months, but I feel like I have always been running out of time, and it has flown by.
