Forrest Gump and his box of choclates.

[littlebitlost]

This is not goodbye forrest....it is hello to something new. Something different and healthy. Try not to tell her you resent anything. It is negative. You have to turn this into something positive and you CAN. you aren't a WAS when you have been told to leave. You have done simply what she asked you to do and in the future when it is discussed and I am sure it will be once the waters calm.....you will know and you can tell you simply did what she asked you to do.

I know that i was great for a few weeks and then it all hit. It hit me what my situation really was. Becuase your wife knows you dont want this she has all the power right now. She i'm sure feels taht if she called you tomorrow and told you to come back you would. I felt the same. When you can be strong and say to her this is what you have decided and now I am going to take control of myself and make myself a better person for me, my children and any future relationship I MAY have, you will again have control. Not over her but over yourself. Being in control and being able to say I have no control over you or this situation but I have control over me and the way I react and feel is very li9berating. it is also very attractive to the people around you.

When she calls, and I can almost guarantee she will say you are in the middle of something and that you will call her back. You can act concnerned...'is everything OK? Yes...OK i'm jus tin the middle of something can I call you back?' She will wonder what you are doing.

Let her know that this was not what you wanted but that you are accepting of the situation and that (even if it has) you are sad sure, but you are not broken. Work on being a better you, the best you.

Allof these things worked on me....trust me.