Forrest: I say let her leave. Even my H agreed that since he was the one that wanted this it was only fair that he be the one to leave. You are right. She has to be the one that goes as she has to realize what she will be missing. I know that you and Cliffy feel that seperating is a M death sentence but it can also be good for the M. I'm trying to look at the positive side bc thats all you can do in a sitch like this. Look at it this way, If they leave then you don't have to appear strong all of the time. You can break down. I know that guys don't like to break down but I also understand how much this really hurts. Everyone needs to break down at times. You are not being selfish. If she wants this then let her leave. It seems like for some reason everyone is going nuts at the moment. I'm not sure what's going on with the universe but man is it playing with peoples hearts lately. Forrest I will leave you with some advice: Do what your heart tells you is right. If that means making her leave then do that. And my other advice that I myslef am working very hard on is: If it is meant to be it will be. I'm here if you want to talk at any time. I wish you all the best.
