When to move back in together?

[the girl]

Hi all,
Whew! I am catching my breath. My housework has doubled now that I have a man in the home! Lots of cooking and cleaning.
We had a nasty financial crisis the other day and it seemed so insignifigant to me. I clearly showed I was not worried. I wasn't. It is just so novel that we are together, facing life as a family, that the other stuff fades out. God was faithful to us in the end, as usual. The whole situation was a clear reminder that my H and I work extremely well together under stress. We are very good with change and we both adapt very easily. We're great together! I wish that would make him crazy for me.

He keeps saying that he needs time and that I can't push things or expect them to go according to my plan. I said "OK, but do you realize you get your way 90% of the time? I have learned that forcing you to do what I want results in you feeling obligated, so why would I want that?" He just listened.

Over the past year I have encountered him accusing me of trying to control the situation. Usually that occurred when I demanded that he stop contacting OW. But I realize that he perceives me that way a lot. I can tell you all, I am not controlling. I give him VAST amounts of freedom. It seems that he has a very difficult time accepting that I have needs/wants as much as he does. It is like I am threatening him. Any insight, anyone?

Things are going very well. We are joking a lot and having lots of fun with our kids. Hooray!

the girl