I agree with you on this one. If this crap is brought on by her, by all means it should be her to leave. The only reason I am the one who will potentially leave is because, I moved into her house when we got married. This isn't suppose to be easy, she has to be accountable to some extent to causing this disruption in your family. Easier said than done. Regardless of what you do, try to keep loving her unconditionally and don't lose you focus. If you ask her to move out, do it nicely.
