The role of the OP in MLC

[Nutty Chick]

I believe many of these MLCers eventually would like to return, but get locked into their new life, feel guilt and shame, and can't.

I really don't see anything more to it than this.

I would agree to this. My H has lucid moments when he phones me and asks if he has done the right thing he says he will doubt his decision all of his life. He tells me that he cares deeply / loves me and misses our son greatly ... and then I don't hear from him for a couple of days... and when I do. He is Mr. Nasty, Mr, Angry, Mr, you ruined my life.

One day he will tell me that he hardly knows Ow, hardly see's her etc and others he will tell me he wants son to meet her...

I would not want to be in his mind for anything. It is bad enough watching him from a distance.

Guilt and shame. Huge ammounts of guilt and yet not wanting to be seen to have made a mistake. It is so so sad.

Nutty Chick