It is true that in her mind we are already divorced. It just sucks. I'm at least curious about what she'll do with it. When we've seen movies where some woman dramatically throws her engagement/wedding ring into the ocean/a river/a lake, she's commented "Argh! No! Sell it!"
I don't know if that's something she actually feels she can do, though. It's alot different when it's a character in a movie then when it's you.
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As far as my sitch I really don't want the rings back but I'm afraid she might pawn them out of anger/money then have huge regrets about it later or if we get back together.
That's a toughie, there. If there is reconcilliation later and she's sold them, it's sort of a grounds to start over/rebuild. If there isn't, and she's sold them, and she feels regret...I dunno. I do think it's unkind to just sell off your rings, for cold cash, rather than just hold on to them to at least gift them to someone. It's also, to me, saying "this is just a piece of metal with no significant to me other than the dollar signs."
On a slightly different note, her attitude towards the Prius is kind of annoying.
In May, we traded in my paid-off Taurus (just 67,000mi on it) towards a used Prius.
We'd made 3 payments and she dropped the bomb. She paid the Sept. one willingly enough, but does not want to pay the Oct one or beyond ($150 each, btw).
She wants me to sell the Prius as soon as I can. She's driving her own paid-off Chevy Cavalier. I offered to let her have the Prius if she wanted, but she declined.
So, here we are, a car with $15,400 left on it. It private markets for $19,000. I figured we sell it for that, pay off the loan, then I'll take the $3,600 left over and put it down on a new (used) car.
She requested that if we have to make an Oct payment, that she gets $150 of that. I'm going to refuse, since she had the option of taking the Prius, and we entered into the loan together (her name's on it, too).
But it kinda pi$$es me off that she wants to get rid of the car ASAP so she doesn't have to make another payment. It's one of the things that've just red-flagged for me in this about how fast she wants the D to happen. :\
Her insistance on selling it before we've really talked much out other than the one conversation I outlined in this thread from 10/01/07, and the talk I had w/ her on 10/05/07 while she'd stopped by, makes me want to drag my feet on selling the damn thing just to show her that this isn't a break-up, it's divorce, and she needs to take it more seriously.
