Thank you, all of you. Ellie what you say is very true. I know S didn't really want to go, I know this with all my heart, however, with the enormous amount of pressure Dick was applying, along with the brainwashing, S didn't stand a chance.
S told his counselor and his football coaches he didn't want to go, yet his last days here, Dick applied so much pressure S was about to implode. I knew it, I could see it, but I didn't have enough time and there wasn't enough distance from Dick. You see, Dick doesn't loose.... never, and at all cost. He is never wrong, no matter what he has do to prove it. He made up story after story, lies on top of lies to destroy me in the eyes of S and in the eyes of the court, and his attorney took it the rest of the way.
They were simple lies, for instance, he mentioned D had an eating problem, yet, while in CA, she ate just fine, but when she returned, she had to be hospitalized because I withheld food from her.
The truth, when she came home from California, she was 99 pounds.... in the first week she was home, was eating small (yet consistant) portions until her body was ready to accept more food. I gave her complete control over what she took in, as I watched over her from a distance. Well, about a week after she came home, she passed out before breakfast because her blood sugar dipped too low. A glass of orange juice and some cereal quickly brought her back to norm.... yet, after eating I brought her to the Drs. to make sure we didn't have anything else going on. She was given a heart monitor to take home for 24 hours, just to make sure there hadn't been any heart damage.
I didn't tell Dick what was going on, but it must have showed up on his insurance... and this is where he built his story.
Now, so that you don't worry..... by the time school started, D was up to 107 pounds, and today weighs 112 pounds. Not once did I "make" her eat, not once did I challenge her decisions. The heart monitor showed her heart is fine. She is doing well, and looking great.
Now I hope and pray that S is able to turn his anger into understanding, and remember where his home and heart is, along with his true self. I pray and pray Dick looses his power over him.
I miss my boy..... I want him back soon.
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Jeremiah 29:11 For I know the plans I have for you.........
You know, I wouldn't mind my son going to his Dad IF that is what he really wanted..... IF his Father could have been on the up and up, and not lied, while trying to destroy me. He manipulated the truth, painted a picture of an abusive parent, said I had been constantly maligning and hurting both children emotionally and physically.
If Dick could have acknowledged that I'm a good Mom, however, his Son wanted to live with him.... I would have delivered S myself. It's not what he did, not even close, he told the court that I'm abusive, controlling, hateful, ugly person, that enjoys tormenting the children.
Dick painted me as a complete monster, even the Judge believes I "pick" on my son..... asked my daughter if S isn't there, isn't she afraid that I will pick on her.....
I'm not the person Dick has made me out to be.... I'm not. I'm not perfect, but I'm certainly not who he has made me out to be.
Jeremiah 29:11 For I know the plans I have for you.........
I am so sorry I haven't stopped by sooner..Oh man is Dick being a DI**K..Sorry had to say it.
I like what IMP said, btw..
Anyway, I agree with KML. She said it very eloquently. You are a great mom and that will prevail.
The hardest part about is focusing on all the negative stuff that Dick does all the time. You have to to win your case, you have no choice. But it is soo exhausting. I know. I am doing it now. I welcome the opportunity to get it out of my brain for even an hour or so. I will probably be going back to court about visitation issues.
I know I say it all the time, but your strength is inspiring. Because of your faith and courage, you will succeed.
Big hugs from NJ, Lauging..One of these days, we need to go out for that Margarita..preferably on a cruise somewhere with some cute cabin boys..
Everything the Judge holds against me, has been something Dick has fabricated, or projected on me. Nothing has been the truth, just false allegations from Dick, and yet, he hasn't had to prove anything, just merely make up a lie, and tell his attorney. Even my own lawyer has her doubts, and was afraid to bring in SRS to prove there hasn't been any emotional abuse.
Who wouldn't be mad, who wouldn't want to scream, who wouldn't be so damned frustrated.
How do I turn it all around? How do I bring the truth into my case? Apparently, it's not by going into the court itself, for each time I do, I open the door for Dick to bring in more lies.
How do I go about introduce and present the facts to the court, in order to clear up my own reputation? How do I show the court who I truly am?
Does anybody know?
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Jeremiah 29:11 For I know the plans I have for you.........
Laughing - I am sorry that I do not understand the US legal system, but just wanted to say how bad I feel for the way you are being treated. No person in their right mind would put anyone through what is heppening to you. I do believe that in the end the truth wins, but that it does seem to take its own sweet time.
Laughing - I have not posted to you before, but heard about your situation from another thread on these boards.
Words cannot describe how much I feel for you right now. I cannot even imagine the pain that you must be in..... I just don't understand a judge separating siblings...I just don't understand any of it.....
I have only read this thread and not any of your others, but why didn't your L refute some of the lies?
I just wanted you to know that I am thinking about you and will say a little prayer for you and your children.
Please, don't apologize for being here, being supportive, and reaching out. Just because neither one of us understands the court/legal system in the US, doesn't mean that what we do give to each other isn't as (or even more) important than a bit of legal advise.
Your support means all the world to me.
Take care, God Bless
Love,
Laughing
Jeremiah 29:11 For I know the plans I have for you.........
My heart has been ripped out of my chest.... I don't understand how the judge could separate my children, except that S has been the one that Dick has been using all along for information and a bit of parental brainwashing. Two days with his father, S is no longer speaking to me..... this is causing me the greatest pain.
I don't know why NONE of my attorneys have refuted the lies, for I have given them proof (yes, that's black and white proof) each and every time. This is the cause of my frustration, why each time I am placed on the stand, my heart rate goes up, I begin to sweat, and my voice strained. Knowing that there is evidence in the court room that could blow Dick right out of the water, and it hasn't been used.
Meanwhile, the Judge treats me as though I am the person Dick has described.... This time, as a parent who has been emotionally abusing her son, who wouldn't purchase parts for his vehicle, who favors the other child, who I might add, was asked by the Judge if she was worried I'd start picking on her if/when her brother left the house. It's all more than I can bear.... as I'm sure the Judge does believe I'm crazy.
Alas, tonight, as I was trying to fall asleep, the answers were coming. There will come a time and place when I will use the latest documenation from this hearing and bring my collection of evidence, so that I will be able to describe to a few people/groups what is going on..... as I am sure these people will be able to bring it to the Judges attention.
I think I now see why I am in the position I am in today......
Take care of you, God Bless
Love,
Laughing
Jeremiah 29:11 For I know the plans I have for you.........
