Yikes..slipped to page 3!!!Been busy..and happy for a change.
Bridget...thank you so much for the nice post..I have not kept up on your threads, but will read them and respond. I am sorry your h has been "lured" away again..so you seem to know what you have to do for you. I still struggle with wondering what h is doing, and wonder if he comes home, will I be able to allow the freedom that for so many years he did not have...I have so learned the patience thing..will that last ..I hope so..as each day goes by, I feel like I can be ok alone, if it comes to that. I am moving on to doing fun things that I have put on hold for a year or more(painting kitchen cupboards, fininshing curtains for bath)things like that..fun things..I am going to plant flowers this year, as last year I did some, but kept wondering when h was going to leave, or if he was having an a or not. So you have to make an effort to move on with your life..as I have said before, you can sink or swim..I see divorce every day in my job and these people are so angry and bitter...even the ones that are d, can't seem to let it go and move on..make themselfs happy. What is the purpose of hurting your spouse or x spouse? The kids are the ones getting hurt.
h called me this a.m. and asked if I could pick him up at his moms and take him to motel where his sister left her car while going on a bus tour..of course I said I would..he thanked me as he was getting out..2nd time of thanking me for something in 25 years!!!!Last night he called and wondered what I was doing..I said nothing, he said they were practicing for Easter program to be held this Sunday, wondered if I wanted to come and watch(it is a tradition that I statred going on practice night a few years ago).Friday night is also a practice night and then a bunch always goes out..at first I just about jumped up and down thinking he was finally asking me to do something, but he wondered if I could bring a couple t- shirts that were still here that his sister was going to borrow. He has never been one to expect me to do things for him, or get things for him, yet would he have called and asked if I wanted to come to church if he did not want me to bring something?? I don't know...guess I will have to just watch and see. I do know that he is feeling very good about his life right now..his active part in our church is very important to him.
He still has a few weeks left in bowling with the ff..I asked him if he was going to bowl next year, he did not know..the old me would have put in a dig about her new mf taking his place, which I'll bet ya he will, but I said nothing. That should really show h that the *itch was using him for what ever attention he was showing her, and not the great friend that he thinks she is.
