Thanks for the advice. I know it is the way to go. And it is so very hard. Things between us have been so good I just can't help but think a big part of his 'thinking about leaving' is because he is getting extreme pressure from her. But I also know he's in a pretty big fog.

Today, as far as leaving, I don't know. We have a spare bedroom that was serving as a junk room. He has wanted to use it as an office for awhile and I finally cleaned it out for him a couple of weeks ago. Today, he is setting things up in there. So I guess, for now, we continue on as is.

Me, I have a weight machine in another room also hampered by junk. My goal today is to clean up the room, dust off the dust, and begin using it!

I've been dealing with stress by picking up an old habit, smoking. My D is really disgusted with me. I'd like to quit and every time I feel the stress, just hit the weight machine to get it out. Sometimes I wish I had a punching bag!!

Thanks to the infidelity diet, I'm 10lbs lighter and all my jeans are baggy. It's hard to feel or look sexy in baggy jeans, I think the second item on my agenda this weekend is to go shopping. Another stress relieving technique!