So I got my texts (see above). Be careful what you wish for. Yesterday she was calling/texting urgently. She needed the camera and I wound up having a huge awful thing with her. I'm devastated. As she needed the camera, I went to drop it off to her. Then she proceeded to treat in the most cruel, callous way. I've never heard her speak to anyone like that. SHe said she was going to be mean, that she wanted half of everything, she accused me of holding her things hostage, essentially had an all out tantrum. I asked her how she could speak to me like that and she said she had to, or I wouldn't "get it". I told her I got it, that this is where she has to be now, and that I wasn't 5 years old and she didn't have to be so heartless. She said that with the OP is exactly where she wants to be and that's not changing. I told her that I didn't believe she could possibly be happy going from one thing to the next without ever having been alone, and she pitched another fit. When she asked if I'd read her letter in which she wanted to keep the digital camera, I asked had she not read my letter? She said because it was full of poison. Actually, it was verbatim what the OP had said to me and a mutual friend, but as I told my partner, she only sees and hears what she wants to at this point. I said I was keeping the camera and had no problem loaning it to her when she needed it. Then she turned venomous and threw it at me. She accused me of being vindictive and trying to control her life (because I said I couldn't have her in my home as long as the thing with the OP continues). A lot more was said, mostly by her, followed by my defending myself. We both had to go, but I called her to say I didn't appreciate her treating me like garbage when I'd run the camera out to her as a favour. I told her I deserved better than that after all I'd been with her through. She went on another tirade. I think she's really gone for good. SHe seems so out of control... I haven't been able to stop crying. So again I ask--is all hope lost?
"In every marriage more than a week old, there are grounds for divorce. The trick is to find, and continue to find, grounds for marriage." -- Robert Anderson
