You're up and writing early. I used to do that too. First stop whenI got up when I was living alone. sometimes I needed it to just make it through the day. I realize that we do speak different languages, but in my ming, marriages are NOT disposable. If you're not having "some need met" it's so easy to just say "Hey, I need...". In my mind, so much of it is SO fixable, if people (like my W.) were not injustice collectors. Don't beat yourslef up. We're all frail huma beings, and we're not mind readers. I'm not convinced if you kissed your husband for 4 hours when he got home and even threw in some other immenities, that he wouldn't be where he is. It's too easy to blame you. We ALL contribute to the disintegration of a M. In my mind....not enough to walk out on two (small) kids.
I often think what if my mom didn't wait for my dad to return from Guadalcanal for 5 years, because she wasn't emotionally satisfied! Emotional needs is so easy once you discover what it was that wasn't being met. Not enough to throw away a commitment, or three kids lives. I still don't buy that THEY ADAPT, especially when they are 8 and older, like my kids. I think they remember so much about being a family, that they are scarred for a long time. I'm not letting your husband (or my wife) off on that one! Take care. Thanks for writng. Always good to here from women on this type of stuff. (Your husband is not still in the military is he?)
