G I read it too, it was good. I am sorry for what is going on with you. Just so you know my H filed 3 months ago and here I am still kicking. But it ain't over till it's over, right? I know it's hard, it's going to be very hard to accept it, but we all eventually do. I read a lot about how to best handle things after our S's file and I found one acceptable path that I have chosen since H filed. I even wrote to Michele to ask her on this and she wrote back saying that I should try to remain friendly. So what I would say to you is stay friendly, distant, keep working on yorself, set your boundaries and start protecting yourself, but don't let things get ugly. I was there too, we had some pretty nasty stuff going on between me and H after he filed, and I almost started to hate him, but I decided I wasn't going down that road, it would have been too easy. So each time he disappointed me during the past three months, I consciously chose to react in a better way and it works. I am not telling you to become a doormat, just to think everything over before reacting to her or talking to her. Just my sitch and opinion, I hope you find some useful stuff in it, but of course you need to choose a path that works for you and your sitch. Only you can decide on that.
still kicking. But it ain't over till it's over, right? I know it's hard, it's going to be very hard to accept it, but we all eventually do. I read a lot about how to best handle things after our S's file and I found one acceptable path that I have chosen since H filed. I even wrote to Michele to ask her on this and she wrote back saying that I should try to remain friendly. So what I would say to you is stay friendly, distant, keep working on yorself, set your boundaries and start protecting yourself, but don't let things get ugly. I was there too, we had some pretty nasty stuff going on between me and H after he filed, and I almost started to hate him, but I decided I wasn't going down that road, it would have been too easy. So each time he disappointed me during the past three months, I consciously chose to react in a better way and it works. I am not telling you to become a doormat, just to think everything over before reacting to her or talking to her. 