Quote: and then I thought if he were to call me..what would we really have to say to each other..maybe I really don' t know how to act in a h/w-m/f relationship..oh I can do more than my share of "talking"..I am not at a loss in a group of friends..but because the past year has been so iffy and tense.I can't remember ever just hanging out with h and talking..it scares me.
Sue, it was the same with me and my W right after I started to DB. You see, I didn't really remember much of what we ever really "talked" about. So, it was kind of difficult to engage her in conversation as she was still a WAW and we hadn't had a huge history of verbal communication. I guess I'm just the typical male. In any case, slowly we began to talk about this and that, then we would talk more. Soon I felt more comfortable with it and it flowed easier. After some time, she would talk to me instead of just getting on the phone.
I mentioned this before in regard to you and your H, but have you engaged him in conversation in which you need help "resolving a problem?" You know, since he does this at church it might make him feel as though he's connecting with you. Perhaps something that doesn't include you two as a couple (like the auto insurance sitch), but rather, just you?
