Got it. Now that is crystal clear and if I can get it, surely your H can.

But for some reason he can't. Grrrrr

OK, I have to pop out for a few hours, will post more thoughts later. There HAS TO be a solution here (sorry, I have a stubborn streak in me that can be a good or bad thing. It does mean I can be tenacious!)

The fact you've stated LOUD AND CLEAR that this must be resolved or it could lead to your leaving, and H still does nothing (or makes a token effort for a day then slides back) is worrying. What a numpty he is if he's going to let you slip away from him!!!

Bomb (ILYBINILWY, don't want to be married)Sept05
Seperated Sept/Oct 05
Oct 06 - H recomitted
July 11 - I am now a WAW.