Thanks for the responses from all of you. I'm glad that I'm not alone in that private hell of being inside my own head with this stuff. I realize all the things that I could have done better in my M. We are all frail human beings with weaknesses and "evil twins"...well, maybe not evil, but sometimes we can all be careless and thoughtless.
As I had lunch with this young Major yesterday who went home on emergency leave because his second wife of one year wanted out, he was filled with remorse and sadness, replaying all he could have done differently. What cmae out is how differently men and women view marriage and goals. Once we get married, as men, we sometimes forget about making our wives feel special, and just search for that next promotion, that next degree....and we forget that our spouse is a "life mate". I'll never make that mistake again.
